Comments on: Talking to Yourself With Self-Compassion (& Why It’s Healthy)

By: Al

Al — Mon, 19 Feb 2018 08:39:15 +0000

Hi Elizabeth!
I understand your concern,but here’s what I think (and of course I may be wrong):
Something that has been proved to be healing to body,mind or spirit can’t
possibly be evil,as curing and taking care of what God gave us is the best thing we can do to honor Him.
This method has worked (along with a whole bunch of other natural techniques,including diet and colon clensing) for a friend who had cancer a few years ago;she is now cured,and gets tested once a year to make sure it’s all good.
I think we can trust EFT,as well as any other method that will not harm others around.
I hope really my opinion did not offend,it’s just what makes sense to me.

By: Katie - Wellness Mama

Katie - Wellness Mama — Sun, 18 Feb 2018 02:25:11 +0000

In reply to Elizabeth. Good question, I just published a post about EFT, and this is one concern I have researched and still have reservations about. That said, there is a lot of recent research that supports the scientific side of EFT and it seems it can be done in a netural way that isn't new age.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Thu, 15 Feb 2018 19:31:29 +0000

I noticed you are promoting EFT or tapping. I was interested until I heard it is not allowed for Christians and could even be demonic. ? I was told it is new age mind control and to stay away. I know you are of similar faith and am curious your thoughts.

By: Katie - Wellness Mama

Katie - Wellness Mama — Thu, 15 Feb 2018 16:08:49 +0000

In reply to Samia. I think you missed the point of the article. As moms, it's really easy to have negative self-talk about ourselves, comparing ourselves to others, worrying that we're not doing enough, etc. If someone is acting unethically/immorally, that's a completely different issue, and I'm definitely not making excuses for those types of lifestyles. However, we should love everyone, no matter who they are or what they do, even if we don't like them and we disagree with their actions. Big difference.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Thu, 15 Feb 2018 12:29:02 +0000

Mindfulness! I use the meditation app Headspace for 20 minutes a day (Headspace has guided and unguided meditations from 3 minutes up). It’s full of awareness of self-compassion and compassion for others. After 800+ straight days, I can say that it works…and includes all the concepts Katie discusses.

By: Al

Al — Thu, 15 Feb 2018 09:13:02 +0000

In reply to Samia.

Hi Samia,
I know you’re right because I know people like those you describe;they only seem to care about themselves,even if that means hurting others badly…
I’ve lived with some of them.
Only way I found to keep myself from wanting to kill them,though,was convincing myself that they may not do things on purpose,that they aren’t concious of the impact on others,and protecting myself from their words and actions (mainly by not being in contact with them) and mostly ended up thinking “poor funny idiot!” and thanking the universe for showing me “interesting” cases of stupidity…
People can be extremely cruel;I agree and it’s not okay with me,but I need to try and be happy,healthy and loving to the people around me (because I don’t want to be one of THOSE! ) and this article came just on time for me,as I’m struggling with anxiety and depression…and am usually pretty pittyless towards myself…
I’ll try and do my best.
Promise.
Thank you,W.M.!

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 15 Feb 2018 08:34:05 +0000

Thank you for this useful article! I’ve been using a hypnotherapy CD at night, which amazingly helps me feel more positive about myself the next day.

By: Jeannie

Jeannie — Wed, 14 Feb 2018 23:53:42 +0000

This is a great topic, and something I am currently working on. As I started with thought watching it became very evident that there was a LOT of negative self view. It has been valuable to my level of happiness to work on this. It most certainly is not self indulgent, actually the negative self talk and depression was more ‘self’ indulgent than the correction of that line of thought. I really like Byron Katie’s the work process. It is work but it is time very well spent.

By: Delaney

Delaney — Wed, 14 Feb 2018 22:08:42 +0000

What did I do well?
It’s so simple but so powerful. I ALWAYS replay bad things and berate myself. Even when they totally were not my fault.
What did I do well? … I’m going to start asking myself that. Thanks so much. I really enjoyed this post.

All of the holidays are overblown. I have fun decorating sometimes but in the past that could have just been home-made cookies and home made decorations. More the thought and intention than buying tons of flashy show off stuff. tbh I’d rather get a bouquet of flowers from a garden in the summer than a dozen super expensive and soon to be wilting roses from the supermarket. That’s just a side note, lol.

By: Samia

Samia — Wed, 14 Feb 2018 19:02:56 +0000

1. I don’t want to “suffer with” others unless they deserve my compassionate attention. Some people are terribly cruel, over & over again. It is going to take more than my “suffering with” to cure them.

2. If we do wrong over and over again (I don’t mean “making mistakes”, I mean really morally bad behavior), we need to kick ourselves in the *** and change our behavior (and maybe apologize) before we can truly love ourselves. Our subconscious knows the difference.

We are not little children or difficult teenagers who deserve love no-matter-what (because at those ages they have no sense of how the world works). Adults need to act in such a way as to deserve love from others.

3. I know people who have plenty of self compassion. Their behavior is that of sociopaths. They love themselves plenty. They love advice telling them to practice more self-compassion.